Monday, June 21, 2010
The kids visit
June 2nd the kids came to visit. Despite light winds, we went for a sail on Friday. Ian, the youngest, enthusiastically embraced sailing once he got over the problem of getting on the boat from the dock. Jeremy, the fifteen year old, ventured on onto the deck without his cell phone--he was separated from it for a full 20 minutes. We weren't sure he would survive.
It was so hot the second day that we all went to the marina pool for the day. We ended the visit we a crab cake dinner at the local Calypso restaurant. A fun time wa had by all.
Monday, May 17, 2010
Day 16 - one last sail
This ends our two week shakedown cruise. As the sun set over the harbour, a crescent moon and Venus blessed our experience. We've learned a lot and experienced enough to know we work well together and can handle whatever the Bay and j-bird bring us. As John surmised, "This sailing stuff isn't easy, but it's a whole different world that is wonderfully seductive."
We'll be on the water for many years to come. The only question is whether we do with our little 33 feet or go for something more substantial is several years. Who knows? It's what keeps life interesting.
Rough seas
On Saturday morning, John and I were ready once again to test our sailing skills. We left our home dock to venture out into the Bay with 20 knot winds and "small craft warning" seas of 2-3 feet with white caps. I was confident. John was nervous. We reefed to main and put out the jib. We banged against the waves. The dogs threw up. Luckily is was not projectile vomiting.
After an hour, we agreed that it was time to head back to dock. John was less nervous and I was proud that my instincts were still good. By the time we settled into the dock, John and I were too tired to make lunch. We piled the pups into the back seat of the car and made the short trip down the road and over the first bridge into Deale for crab cakes at the "Happy Harbour" cafe, sitting amidst the charter fishing boats. (I think I have John's birthday present in mind!)
After an hour, we agreed that it was time to head back to dock. John was less nervous and I was proud that my instincts were still good. By the time we settled into the dock, John and I were too tired to make lunch. We piled the pups into the back seat of the car and made the short trip down the road and over the first bridge into Deale for crab cakes at the "Happy Harbour" cafe, sitting amidst the charter fishing boats. (I think I have John's birthday present in mind!)
Thursday, May 13, 2010
In our home slip safe, warm and dry!
John returned to j-bird sans pain and $25 in taxi fare this morning. He didn't see a doctor, but walking around seemed to cure his aches (at least temporarily). At 10:57am we caste off from Bert Jabin's Yacht Yard for the last time. It was chilly, but the rain held off and so did the winds. I put on two pair of socks, double pants and a sweat shirt under my jacket. John seemed fine without all the layers, but JoeJoe and Fred needed covers to keep the shivers away. Luckily, our friend J supplied us with several loaner doggy towels and I dug up an extra pillow sham to wrap around the little guy. Problem was is that he kept getting up when he spied a bird sweep across the water and we had to wrap him up all over again.
With no wind, we were forced to motor south for three hours. It was pleasant enough. We captured a great shot of Thomas Point Light and practiced setting and sailing to waypoints. We lunched on a bit of salad and roasted potatoes (left overs!)
This home slip is the top bar of a T shaped dock so most of the other boats in the marina are behind us. There is a boat on each side of j-bird, but our view is the break water and surrounding shore. It's like being at anchor with no one around. No one is blocking our view of the Herrington Harbour. We've settled in to our new "home".
The channel into Herrington Harbour North is very narrow so we carefully navigated it with great success. I backed j-bird stern first into the slip. We then spent over an hour figuring out how to do the dock lines -- the slip is almost twice as wide as j-bird. I walked the dock to see what other boats had done and then we tugged and rearranged the dock lines 3 or 4 times to get them right. We're still not sure they are right, but by Sunday when we leave, we will know more (crossing fingers).
Days 10-13 Rain, rain and more cold rain
Our plans were to sail to St. Michaels on the Eastern Shore today (Thursday), then head over to Herrington Habour North on Friday to get settled into our new slip. We shopped for provisions one last time, then yesterday drove the car to Herrington Harbour North (Deal, MD). We were able to set up our dock lines on the slip before the Tidewater shuttle brought us back to Bert Jabins Yacht Yard here in Annapolis so we are now carless.
Monday, May 10, 2010
Day 9 - Christening j-bird
It took some courage for J to do the christening. She gets sea sick just looking a boat. She went above and beyond the "call of duty", but, then not everyone has a boat named after them. We love her for it!
Day 7 - Our first all day cruise
For the rest of the day, there was a goodly amount of cooperating wind and we were able to sail all the way home into the harbor under sail. Only after we rounded the last green mark did we roll in the jib and mainsail. John and I, thanks to Paige's help feel very comfortable on the boat, working together. We'll be ready to head for our own slip on Thursday or Friday.
During this day, we had a number of firsts. They included:
- John getting on deck to adjust the clew of the jib and get a few trimming tips from Paige
- Going aground and getting off
- Anchoring
- Sailing all points of sail, including a few jibes as we played around the parked tankers
- Sailing into harbor with both sailing up
We've become a grand sailing family.
Sunday, May 9, 2010
Day 6 - Dinghy Day
While John worked at the computer attempting to finish a laste minute work assignment (the ump-teenth one), I spent the morning preparing the dinghy for launch--rolling it out on the dock, blowing it up with 12 volt air pump and finishing with the foot pump, applying the registration numbers, and attaching the lines. All John had to do was launch the little floater and take us for a test run. He launched the dinghy with grace and dignity.
We avoided disaster when he rowed us far enough away from shore to restart the engine without the prop getting stuck in the mud. As we put-tputted around the creek, he told me he'd never been in such a small boat, nor had he ever operated an outboard motor. I laughed and asked if I might take the helm of TTJB. He readily agreed. As I steered us around, the engine lost power. What had happened? We limped back to the dock speculating on possible causes and cures.
Once back at the dock, a passing sailor saw our deliberations and suggested we check the gas tank. I opened the gas tank. It seems that John didn't fill tank quite full enough. It was dry as a bone. We laughed, we sighed. Another learning experience, but a good one.
Wednesday, May 5, 2010
Day 5 - Pups and perfect sailing weather
Fred has turned out to be the super water dog -- able to take one look at what is happening and then lie down to enjoy the ride. In the mean time his hyper active brother paced the cockpit to find the perfect spot for "nose into the wind". It was better than any car with an open back window could provide. He split his time with that and hanging his head out the stern to watch water bubble out from under the boat as we sliced through the water. All the sail went out today. John took the helm. I relaxed and all is well with the world.
On our return we gave j-bird her first wash down. It made us both proud to see her in Bristol condition at our own hands. Tomorrow we begin waxing the deck--a labor of love -- at least for this first time.
We were too tired to inflate the dinghy as planned so it goes on tomorrow's list of things to do. Fred and JoeJoe need to get used to getting in and out of the dinghy. Enjoying the "putt-putt" ride in the little craft will be a breeze for them.
It's late, almost 11pm. It's a cool and windy night. The boys are asleep on the settees in the salon while John and I diddle at our computers. Living in fresh air before the heat of the summer is heavenly. It's a lifesyle that just calms me down.
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
Day 4 - We keep on practicing
Morning brought sunshine and fresh breeze. I took action on several items that only a sailor could appreciate so I won't go into the details. John worked through the morning (as only the Internet and broadband can allow).
Our sail this day was focused on learning how to reef the main (aka learn how to adjust the sails so you can sail more upright in strong winds) and learning how to dock using this really great technique of driving backwards. Both were successful. John was much more comfortable. He even took the helm to motor us home into Back Creek. He's smiling!!! Both of us are happy.
We also installed our outboard engine (aka dinghy engine) holder. Next is inflating the dinghy so we can take the dog boys for a cruise tomorrow night.
Dinner was scallops in butter, shallots and lemon with a bit of Old Bay with steamed garlic and toasted walnut broccoli. Cooking simple does not mean cooking dull! It was fabulous.
Day 3 - Our first sail
The sky was cloudy, but the air was warm and the winds moderate (10-15 knots with gusts to 20). Our boat broker, Bob, walked us through all the on deck systems, then directed us away from the dock and took us out for our maiden voyage.
This picture says it all! I'm enthralled and my husband is trying with all his might to enjoy the ride. John is new to sailing and his one boating experience as a teenager was trying to swim around an anchored power boat with other kids when he couldn't swim and they could. So, we're talking about it. He's working through the panic many people feel when a sail boat heels 10-15 degrees in a burst of wind-- which j-bird did on Monday as we took a beam reach (wind across our middle) out to some tankers parked in the bay, awaiting orders to steam into Baltimore harbor.
j-bird is a swift little 33' wonder. She's stable, well equipped and easy to maneuver. We go out again tomorrow. The sun is supposed to shine!
Sunday, May 2, 2010
Day1 and 2 - Systems and Stowing Stuff
We arrived at Bert Jabin's Boat Yard on the backside of Annapolis in Eastport Saturday at 10am sans dogs. They are in camp (aka kennel) until Wednesday as we thought it wise to learn the boat without them scampering and whining about. In two short hours we toured j-bird's innards -- the engine, pumps, water and fuel systems, head and holding tanks and the finish flurish -- a quick overview of electrical systems. I know more about innards of a sailboat then I ever really wanted to know. And, I really don't "know" anything. Only after reading the manuals and trying to change one of the several filters will I actually know something.
today, Sunday, Day 2, was organization day. As the saying goes, we've stowed 10 pounds of stuff in a 5 pound box. Galley (aka kitchen) is now fully stocked and organized. Our clothes are still in duffel bags, but head (aka bathroom) has all the basic health and beauty aids and fully operational. Cockpit and deck stuff is stowed in bins in the cockpit and I'm writing from the cockpit as the rain drizzles all around (it's Monday morning). Luckily we have a great Bimini and dodger (aka porch) to keep us dry.
After our second trip to West Marine (aka hardware store for boats), lunch and grocery store run, we relaxed, sipped wine at the bow (aka pointy end) looked west across Back Creek with its many boats nestled in slips lined around its edges. The setting sun made the creek sparkle on the rivulets made by a light breeze blowing across the water.
John cooked up some steam shrimp. I mixed some cocktail sauce. Our first meal on j-bird in the cockpit under a starless but pleasant sky. We turned off the dockside air conditioning, and opened the hatches to sleep in the open air. As we climbed into the V-birth (aka pointy end master cabin) we discovered we'd forgotten to buy sleeping pillows. Guess it's time for a new shopping list!
today, Sunday, Day 2, was organization day. As the saying goes, we've stowed 10 pounds of stuff in a 5 pound box. Galley (aka kitchen) is now fully stocked and organized. Our clothes are still in duffel bags, but head (aka bathroom) has all the basic health and beauty aids and fully operational. Cockpit and deck stuff is stowed in bins in the cockpit and I'm writing from the cockpit as the rain drizzles all around (it's Monday morning). Luckily we have a great Bimini and dodger (aka porch) to keep us dry.
After our second trip to West Marine (aka hardware store for boats), lunch and grocery store run, we relaxed, sipped wine at the bow (aka pointy end) looked west across Back Creek with its many boats nestled in slips lined around its edges. The setting sun made the creek sparkle on the rivulets made by a light breeze blowing across the water.
John cooked up some steam shrimp. I mixed some cocktail sauce. Our first meal on j-bird in the cockpit under a starless but pleasant sky. We turned off the dockside air conditioning, and opened the hatches to sleep in the open air. As we climbed into the V-birth (aka pointy end master cabin) we discovered we'd forgotten to buy sleeping pillows. Guess it's time for a new shopping list!
Saturday, April 24, 2010
The month of anticipation
In one week, we begin our sailing life. J-bird has her name emblazoned on the stern and she's got a lovely marine blue coat of bottom paint. Her hull above the water line has been waxed to a mirror shine. She goes into the water on Monday.
We succeeded in putting a trunk full of equipment and supplies on the boat in March, only to learn from our broker in a moaning and groaning voice that the shipwrights were going to tear the interior apart to install the fans, electronics and anchor wash tubing. Now everything is scattered about, buried among tools, cushions and hoses. However, in the true shopping spirit, we've continued to acquire the essentials -- everything from sunglasses to binoculars, bedding and wax for the deck. Our small trunk is, once again, full to the brim and the dinghy and outboard motor for it are still sitting in the guest room along with charts, a Chesapeake Cruising guide, Chapman's, knot books, and cook books for boaters. My sister generously returned the ones I gave her years ago--she heats more than she cooks.
We can't get all this stuff on the boat until the outfitting is complete and she is sitting in the water. Last weekend, we managed to install our federal id numbers above the door to the aft cabin on the inside. The regulation 3" numbers MD 3922 BX are firmly displayed and painted over with polyurethane. The feds require that the numbers be attached in such a way that if they are removed, it will be obvious.
As we wait for j-bird to be readied, we attended three different courses offered by our marina -- one on safety, one on diesel engines and the last one on navigation. We are ready! We've even carried the boys up the ladder (j-bird sits on sticks right now) so they could walk around her to get acquainted the environs. Fred immediately scooted down the companion way stairs, circled the salon, plopped down on floor and sighed, glad that he was home. This is a good sign. JoeJoe found j-bird to be a curious and strange place. He sniffed and scurried everywhere, never reaxing. Luckily we've got doggy life jackets so he'll float until he calms down and gets the idea of living on the water.
Back at the condo, we are preparing to remove the vertical living room and bedroom blinds that close across sliding glass doors. They'll soon be replaced with graceful draperies that complement the soft gold walls. We're also getting estimates on a built-in bookcase for John's office. He's been working for FedEx for three years (my how time flies) and instead of retiring again, he's staying. He's been promoted and is starting to travel more. Guess he can't say no to such a good thing. I'm still working as an independent communications consultant here in DC. The good news is that I approval to to take Friday's off for the summer and fall. More time to sail. It's been a good month for both of us. Hooray!
We succeeded in putting a trunk full of equipment and supplies on the boat in March, only to learn from our broker in a moaning and groaning voice that the shipwrights were going to tear the interior apart to install the fans, electronics and anchor wash tubing. Now everything is scattered about, buried among tools, cushions and hoses. However, in the true shopping spirit, we've continued to acquire the essentials -- everything from sunglasses to binoculars, bedding and wax for the deck. Our small trunk is, once again, full to the brim and the dinghy and outboard motor for it are still sitting in the guest room along with charts, a Chesapeake Cruising guide, Chapman's, knot books, and cook books for boaters. My sister generously returned the ones I gave her years ago--she heats more than she cooks.
We can't get all this stuff on the boat until the outfitting is complete and she is sitting in the water. Last weekend, we managed to install our federal id numbers above the door to the aft cabin on the inside. The regulation 3" numbers MD 3922 BX are firmly displayed and painted over with polyurethane. The feds require that the numbers be attached in such a way that if they are removed, it will be obvious.
As we wait for j-bird to be readied, we attended three different courses offered by our marina -- one on safety, one on diesel engines and the last one on navigation. We are ready! We've even carried the boys up the ladder (j-bird sits on sticks right now) so they could walk around her to get acquainted the environs. Fred immediately scooted down the companion way stairs, circled the salon, plopped down on floor and sighed, glad that he was home. This is a good sign. JoeJoe found j-bird to be a curious and strange place. He sniffed and scurried everywhere, never reaxing. Luckily we've got doggy life jackets so he'll float until he calms down and gets the idea of living on the water.
Back at the condo, we are preparing to remove the vertical living room and bedroom blinds that close across sliding glass doors. They'll soon be replaced with graceful draperies that complement the soft gold walls. We're also getting estimates on a built-in bookcase for John's office. He's been working for FedEx for three years (my how time flies) and instead of retiring again, he's staying. He's been promoted and is starting to travel more. Guess he can't say no to such a good thing. I'm still working as an independent communications consultant here in DC. The good news is that I approval to to take Friday's off for the summer and fall. More time to sail. It's been a good month for both of us. Hooray!
Friday, April 2, 2010
Cherry blossoms

I escaped from work at one to join John, my New York buddy, Carol and her daughter Allison who now lives and works in DC, for lunch at a favorite restaurant, Zaytinya's. It's at Gallery Place, on 9th across the street from the National Portrait Gallery. Refreshed and replenished, we made our way downtown to the Mall where crowds milled about walking, trailing after kids, pushing babies carriages, lunching and lounging on blankets, and biking. From the sky, they probably look like a million ants scurrying about. We were the ants with the determined march to the south east and the Tidal Basin.
The weather today could not have been more perfect -- little humidity, high 70's temperature and a light, but fresh breeze. As we closed in on the basin the crowds became throngs and started closing in around us. But we pushed on, taking deep breaths as we scooted around the unending picture taking. We even joined in.
As we continued to make our way around the basin past the boat dock, Carol reminded us about how few people there were when, a few years ago, we came for our walk at 8 in the morning as the sun peaked out above the trees. We heartily agreed that our timing was not the best, although the weather was. Both Allison and I were reaching our "people pushing limit".
We'd been walking an hour when we finally settled on the steps of the Jefferson Memorial to give our legs a rest and discuss our options to avoid some of the crowds. Carol, always at the ready, pulled out her handy visitor map. Allison circled all the metro stops within striking distance and we analyzed each as if the president had ordered the most effective and efficient decision from our little team. There was certainly enough brain power, degrees and analysis experience among us for the job.
And succeed we did -- we stood, adjusted sun glasses, knapsacks and shoulder bags and set off down the granite Jeffersonian steps. We strode around to the backside of the basin to where the path divides -- one fork going to the Roosevelt Memorial at the basin's edge and rimmed with cherry trees and the other fork going to a sidewalk, with fewer cherry trees, along the Potomac. Our decision was confirmed correct as we turned left and found ourselves pleasantly almost alone. Well, at least there were fewer fellow walkers to contend with as we walked north to the Memorial Bridge that butts up again the Lincoln Memorial. We could hear each other talk so we had a find time chatting about the origins of polo which, I believe, is still played in that area occasionally.
By the time we reached the bridge, John declared a rest stop in the shadow of the great bronzed and gleaming lion that guards, with his brother, the entrance to the bridge. John wiped his sweaty brow and cleaned his sun glasses while Allison and I did a few leg stretches and Carol mused about sweets with a grin on her face. In minutes, we were walking again into the setting sun with the Custis home in view, headed toward the Metro stop in front of the Arlington Cemetery.
We're home now. Windows are wide open. Breezes continue to blow freshly as the sun sets leaving a pink sky, a sailor's delight, behind. John sleeps on the couch, recuperating from our venture around the Tidal Basin. Tom Jefferson continues to overlook the visitors taking in the blossoms in the evening air. A petal snow falls lightly now and then. The special time will be over in just a few days.
The weather today could not have been more perfect -- little humidity, high 70's temperature and a light, but fresh breeze. As we closed in on the basin the crowds became throngs and started closing in around us. But we pushed on, taking deep breaths as we scooted around the unending picture taking. We even joined in.
As we continued to make our way around the basin past the boat dock, Carol reminded us about how few people there were when, a few years ago, we came for our walk at 8 in the morning as the sun peaked out above the trees. We heartily agreed that our timing was not the best, although the weather was. Both Allison and I were reaching our "people pushing limit".
We'd been walking an hour when we finally settled on the steps of the Jefferson Memorial to give our legs a rest and discuss our options to avoid some of the crowds. Carol, always at the ready, pulled out her handy visitor map. Allison circled all the metro stops within striking distance and we analyzed each as if the president had ordered the most effective and efficient decision from our little team. There was certainly enough brain power, degrees and analysis experience among us for the job.
And succeed we did -- we stood, adjusted sun glasses, knapsacks and shoulder bags and set off down the granite Jeffersonian steps. We strode around to the backside of the basin to where the path divides -- one fork going to the Roosevelt Memorial at the basin's edge and rimmed with cherry trees and the other fork going to a sidewalk, with fewer cherry trees, along the Potomac. Our decision was confirmed correct as we turned left and found ourselves pleasantly almost alone. Well, at least there were fewer fellow walkers to contend with as we walked north to the Memorial Bridge that butts up again the Lincoln Memorial. We could hear each other talk so we had a find time chatting about the origins of polo which, I believe, is still played in that area occasionally.
By the time we reached the bridge, John declared a rest stop in the shadow of the great bronzed and gleaming lion that guards, with his brother, the entrance to the bridge. John wiped his sweaty brow and cleaned his sun glasses while Allison and I did a few leg stretches and Carol mused about sweets with a grin on her face. In minutes, we were walking again into the setting sun with the Custis home in view, headed toward the Metro stop in front of the Arlington Cemetery.
We're home now. Windows are wide open. Breezes continue to blow freshly as the sun sets leaving a pink sky, a sailor's delight, behind. John sleeps on the couch, recuperating from our venture around the Tidal Basin. Tom Jefferson continues to overlook the visitors taking in the blossoms in the evening air. A petal snow falls lightly now and then. The special time will be over in just a few days.
Thursday, March 18, 2010
Spring came Sunday
Even though a cold wind blew through the naked trees Saturday night when I took the boys for their last walk, the air felt different. There was a bit of warmth hidden there and the sky was clearing. Sunday dawn brought 50 and 60 degree weather, the rain had cleared the sidewalks and the last of the snow piles had melted away. John's brush with pneumonia had passed and he was no longer a grumpy ol' man. Spring had definitely arrived. I celebrated by switching out my winter for spring clothes, taking inventory of the stuff to be taken of to Good will, and opening all the windows and letting the dust blow in and not caring a bit.
It's onto Cherry Blossoms. I just hope the weather stays warm so when my friend Carol comes April 2nd, we can walk the basin surrounded by thousands of tourists and soft pink and white blossoms.
It's onto Cherry Blossoms. I just hope the weather stays warm so when my friend Carol comes April 2nd, we can walk the basin surrounded by thousands of tourists and soft pink and white blossoms.
Sunday, February 28, 2010
Nightmare at the matinee
John and I settled into our seats in the middle of the some fifty patrons scattered about the traditional theatre seating. It was the 2:40 Saturday afternoon showing of Young Victoria. After the advertisements finished, the lights were dimmed and we watched the previews. Then lights were doused, we put our cell phones on quiet, and the main feature filled the screen before us. Just minutes into the story, late arrivals shuffled across the back of the theatre, popcorn in hand, talking over the film voices.
"Well, where are you going to sit?"
"I don't know, let's look down here."
"I don't want to sit that far forward."
"Let's look over there, then."
Who are these people? Kids mouthing off? In unison with others around us, we turned in our seats to see, to our amazement, five puffy, gray haired women in thick parkas with assorted scarves dangling around their necks.
"Be quiet!" someone said from the seats.
"Shhhhhhhhh" said others.
But one intruder refused. "We have a right to get to our seats!" she demanded. Someone ducked and went for an usher.
Gripping the arms of my seat with white knuckle strength, I seethed. I was about to jump up, raise my hands in the air, turn my back to the screen and yell straight into their faces, "Shut the (*&^% up!" But, before I could act, my anger turned to fright. Those ladies weren't even ten years older than me. Was I trapped in a time traveler nightmare? Was I in the future --surrounded by retirement home escapees? --surrounded by rude, demanding people? John saw the look on my face. He turned to me, squeezed my hand and whispered in my ear, "It's OK, Honey. That won't be us."
I calmed myself as the theatre finally settled into a hushed quiet, but all the things my mother did like that -- so unaware of the impact on others -- flashed through my mind. The pointing with her cane from her wheel chair with demands to "take me over there" without a "Please" or "Thank you" bubbled up only to be quickly replaced with her the loud complaints about the food service during dinner and her callous remarks after a third double vodka. Will I become my mother? I shuttered. I whispered to John, "Just shoot me if I get like that, please?" "Guaranteed. Now watch the show," he said sweetly.
"Well, where are you going to sit?"
"I don't know, let's look down here."
"I don't want to sit that far forward."
"Let's look over there, then."
Who are these people? Kids mouthing off? In unison with others around us, we turned in our seats to see, to our amazement, five puffy, gray haired women in thick parkas with assorted scarves dangling around their necks.
"Be quiet!" someone said from the seats.
"Shhhhhhhhh" said others.
But one intruder refused. "We have a right to get to our seats!" she demanded. Someone ducked and went for an usher.
Gripping the arms of my seat with white knuckle strength, I seethed. I was about to jump up, raise my hands in the air, turn my back to the screen and yell straight into their faces, "Shut the (*&^% up!" But, before I could act, my anger turned to fright. Those ladies weren't even ten years older than me. Was I trapped in a time traveler nightmare? Was I in the future --surrounded by retirement home escapees? --surrounded by rude, demanding people? John saw the look on my face. He turned to me, squeezed my hand and whispered in my ear, "It's OK, Honey. That won't be us."
I calmed myself as the theatre finally settled into a hushed quiet, but all the things my mother did like that -- so unaware of the impact on others -- flashed through my mind. The pointing with her cane from her wheel chair with demands to "take me over there" without a "Please" or "Thank you" bubbled up only to be quickly replaced with her the loud complaints about the food service during dinner and her callous remarks after a third double vodka. Will I become my mother? I shuttered. I whispered to John, "Just shoot me if I get like that, please?" "Guaranteed. Now watch the show," he said sweetly.
Thursday, February 25, 2010
45th class reunion
The post card came in the mail two days ago. "Save the date for the NCHS 45th class reunion" it said. I immediately put the date on the calender. I will not miss it. We were the class of '65, the first big baby boomer class -- the rebellious, disco dancing, dope smoking, love making, risk taking kids, rebelling against our parents rules and expectations. For some reason, our class is special, we've reconvened every five years since '65. Something always draws me back.
At the 40th, Diana rented a convertible--we envisioned ourselves as Thelma and Louise willing to drive off the cliff. If reality we just drove through our home town -- now more than gown up, trying to remember what was there before the restaurants, the Gap, William-Sonoma and the rest of the upscale shops that had woven themselves into the fabric of the old town. The stone library and red brick YMCA building still face Washington Street , deying modernity to take them. But, the old department store and 5&10 cent store have been obliterated. The bank is now a happening now cuisine restaurant. It is could not be different, but we remember and tell stories.
At the 40th, twelve of us girls stayed at Dottie's for the weekend, sleeping in beds, bags, sofa beds and anything else Dottie could conjure up. As we sat on the deck in the morning after the initial get together at the VFW the night before, we nursed our coffees, acting as if we'd just gotten together the weekend after the graduation parties. Time had not passed despite that fact that time had passed and had taken a toll on our lives. We've been married and divorced, lost husbands to heart attacks, grandmothered, reinvented ourselves and played out our fantasies or not. We couldn't believe how the years had passed. We looked at each other as we were, not as we are. It gave us great pleasure to once again smoke cigarettes without guilt, tell wild stories, drink too much wine, and make each other double over in laughter.
Those years of wanting to be popular and never quite being on the A list have given way to a pleasant acceptance of who I am. What was important then, no longer matters. Nerdy guys have become handsome. Cool guys have lost themselves to invisibility. Average guys have become outstanding and class clowns have become powerful capitalists. We'd like to think any success was was our choice, but mostly it was a matter of luck. Who knows why one of us fell into depression and lost his future or another who saw no future became a dynamic success. Who knows why, after 40 years, I still wished Billy had kissed me when I crawled up the tree in his front yard and only at that reunion could tell him what a crush I had on him.
Everyone has a story to tell, a story that is worth listening to whether it's sad or happy in the end. It's a nice place to be. Most of us still refuse to admit to our encroaching elder status, but we gain strength from knowing each other, for what we were to each other and what we continue to be. I hope to see so many classmates on the weekend of July 30 and 31st.
At the 40th, Diana rented a convertible--we envisioned ourselves as Thelma and Louise willing to drive off the cliff. If reality we just drove through our home town -- now more than gown up, trying to remember what was there before the restaurants, the Gap, William-Sonoma and the rest of the upscale shops that had woven themselves into the fabric of the old town. The stone library and red brick YMCA building still face Washington Street , deying modernity to take them. But, the old department store and 5&10 cent store have been obliterated. The bank is now a happening now cuisine restaurant. It is could not be different, but we remember and tell stories.
At the 40th, twelve of us girls stayed at Dottie's for the weekend, sleeping in beds, bags, sofa beds and anything else Dottie could conjure up. As we sat on the deck in the morning after the initial get together at the VFW the night before, we nursed our coffees, acting as if we'd just gotten together the weekend after the graduation parties. Time had not passed despite that fact that time had passed and had taken a toll on our lives. We've been married and divorced, lost husbands to heart attacks, grandmothered, reinvented ourselves and played out our fantasies or not. We couldn't believe how the years had passed. We looked at each other as we were, not as we are. It gave us great pleasure to once again smoke cigarettes without guilt, tell wild stories, drink too much wine, and make each other double over in laughter.
Those years of wanting to be popular and never quite being on the A list have given way to a pleasant acceptance of who I am. What was important then, no longer matters. Nerdy guys have become handsome. Cool guys have lost themselves to invisibility. Average guys have become outstanding and class clowns have become powerful capitalists. We'd like to think any success was was our choice, but mostly it was a matter of luck. Who knows why one of us fell into depression and lost his future or another who saw no future became a dynamic success. Who knows why, after 40 years, I still wished Billy had kissed me when I crawled up the tree in his front yard and only at that reunion could tell him what a crush I had on him.
Everyone has a story to tell, a story that is worth listening to whether it's sad or happy in the end. It's a nice place to be. Most of us still refuse to admit to our encroaching elder status, but we gain strength from knowing each other, for what we were to each other and what we continue to be. I hope to see so many classmates on the weekend of July 30 and 31st.
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
Watching the Olympics
I've never been an athlete. In grammar school, I was almost always embarrassingly last picked to play dodge ball. The words said with great sighs by team captains, "Well, I guess we'll take Dorine", will ring in my ears for eternity.
In junior high it got worse. I sprouted above most of my peers in 6th grade, making me clumsy as well as not very swift. Defensively, I became the girl who, in gym class, always claimed to have cramps so I could sit on the sidelines and keep from getting sweaty. I hated the dumb blue one piece gym suits we had to wear and the even dumber "girls" rules for so many of the sports, like basketball where you could only dribble the ball for so many steps before you had to throw it. I couldn't stop breaking the rules.
In high school, sports went outside and I tried but failed again. I was too short (everyone grew taller suddenly) and still not swift, so track and field hockey were out. Tennis was a bust as well when I discovered my depth perception sucked. Balls curved around me, over me and far away from me. My racket was everywhere except where it was supposed to be. Then, in high school, one gym teacher took me aside after watching me lead my classmates in warm-up exercises. Running her right hand through her short bleached duck tail of a haircut, she stepped on the stair with her leg with its scarred knee, looked at me like a disappointed mother and said, "You just don't have what it takes to be a leader. You let the girls joke around too much." That was it. I was never going to enjoy any kind of organized athletics.
I'm not one to sit around lumping my fate, so, I turned to unorganized sports, things I could do outside of school without teachers or having to be picked by a team. I learned to ice and roller skate. I wasn't too bad either -- after many falls and bruises, I twirled and skated backwards through a crowd. There were were no rules and I was happy just messing about. In my twenties, I beat guys twice my age with bad knees at racket ball. I compensated for my lousy depth perception because the walls were close and it was a short hop to reach the ball as it came whizzing toward at me. Then, I picked up on running in my thirties, surprising enjoying pushing myself, alone, for the first time -- until I went to cross the street just a block from home and got hit by a car that was trying to beat the light. The bastard hit me and drove away, leaving me lying on the blacktop in the sun's glare on his review mirror.
So watching the winter Olympics -- is, well, nice watching handsome young men and women compete and risk serious bodily harm -- but after a while, it fades into background noise. Can you blame me?
In junior high it got worse. I sprouted above most of my peers in 6th grade, making me clumsy as well as not very swift. Defensively, I became the girl who, in gym class, always claimed to have cramps so I could sit on the sidelines and keep from getting sweaty. I hated the dumb blue one piece gym suits we had to wear and the even dumber "girls" rules for so many of the sports, like basketball where you could only dribble the ball for so many steps before you had to throw it. I couldn't stop breaking the rules.
In high school, sports went outside and I tried but failed again. I was too short (everyone grew taller suddenly) and still not swift, so track and field hockey were out. Tennis was a bust as well when I discovered my depth perception sucked. Balls curved around me, over me and far away from me. My racket was everywhere except where it was supposed to be. Then, in high school, one gym teacher took me aside after watching me lead my classmates in warm-up exercises. Running her right hand through her short bleached duck tail of a haircut, she stepped on the stair with her leg with its scarred knee, looked at me like a disappointed mother and said, "You just don't have what it takes to be a leader. You let the girls joke around too much." That was it. I was never going to enjoy any kind of organized athletics.
I'm not one to sit around lumping my fate, so, I turned to unorganized sports, things I could do outside of school without teachers or having to be picked by a team. I learned to ice and roller skate. I wasn't too bad either -- after many falls and bruises, I twirled and skated backwards through a crowd. There were were no rules and I was happy just messing about. In my twenties, I beat guys twice my age with bad knees at racket ball. I compensated for my lousy depth perception because the walls were close and it was a short hop to reach the ball as it came whizzing toward at me. Then, I picked up on running in my thirties, surprising enjoying pushing myself, alone, for the first time -- until I went to cross the street just a block from home and got hit by a car that was trying to beat the light. The bastard hit me and drove away, leaving me lying on the blacktop in the sun's glare on his review mirror.
So watching the winter Olympics -- is, well, nice watching handsome young men and women compete and risk serious bodily harm -- but after a while, it fades into background noise. Can you blame me?
Sunday, February 14, 2010
Sunday Afternoon
The afternoon sun blasts its way through the sliding glass doors into the living room, heightened in its intensity by reflections off the snow covered roofs we can see from the balcony. The light exposes every dust bunny and piece of glass streaked with doggy nose smears. But, today the sun light can't intimidate me because, in a frenzy of energy, John and I cleaned the house Saturday afternoon. We couldn't take it anymore. We couldn't wait for the snow to melt. It was starting to look like the home of a recluse with no cleaning lady to visit regularly. There were dirty dishes stacked on the counters, toys strewn about the house and dirty clothes litering the floors. The towels and sheets were starting to take on lives of their own. All of this, very unlike us. Guess the four days locked in at home and sloshing through two feet of snow every six hours with the dogs took a toll on us.
Our cleaning work paid off. We woke to spend a lazy day at home. The dogs are sleeping on the floor (instead of the furniture for some strange reason). John just finished a bunch of expense reports and is getting ready to cook a lucious Sunday dinner -- a whole chicken roasted with root vegetables. He's trying to outdo himself after a mouthwatering, aroma room-filling herb and mushroom suffed pork roast served with lemon buttered asparagus. It's tough to admit, but we are foodies--we live to eat.
I'm watching the Olympics while I do my "social media" thing--uploading pictures from our trip to NYC last weekend, posting messages and pictures of my grandchildren on Facebook pages and making dinner dates with friends using Facebook chat. What ever happened to the telephone? I'm going to try that old fashioned device to reach my girl friend in Connecticut later today. I don't know which is worse -- that I'm adapting to the new digital world and actually liking it or that some of my friends are stuck in email or, god forbid, the telephone as their major source of communications. I even have one sister who is still on dial-up.
It takes effort for me to be this lay-back. I'm itching to get out to Annapolis and the sailboat. But I can't get excited about working out in our exercise room downstairs -- something is my body is saying, "Oh no, not when you walk up and down those many frigin' stairs going back and forth to work on the metro." I know better -- I've got sagging arms to prove it; but the exercise fairy has not touched with me her magic wand. I'm such a bad girl! Whip me!
Our cleaning work paid off. We woke to spend a lazy day at home. The dogs are sleeping on the floor (instead of the furniture for some strange reason). John just finished a bunch of expense reports and is getting ready to cook a lucious Sunday dinner -- a whole chicken roasted with root vegetables. He's trying to outdo himself after a mouthwatering, aroma room-filling herb and mushroom suffed pork roast served with lemon buttered asparagus. It's tough to admit, but we are foodies--we live to eat.
I'm watching the Olympics while I do my "social media" thing--uploading pictures from our trip to NYC last weekend, posting messages and pictures of my grandchildren on Facebook pages and making dinner dates with friends using Facebook chat. What ever happened to the telephone? I'm going to try that old fashioned device to reach my girl friend in Connecticut later today. I don't know which is worse -- that I'm adapting to the new digital world and actually liking it or that some of my friends are stuck in email or, god forbid, the telephone as their major source of communications. I even have one sister who is still on dial-up.
It takes effort for me to be this lay-back. I'm itching to get out to Annapolis and the sailboat. But I can't get excited about working out in our exercise room downstairs -- something is my body is saying, "Oh no, not when you walk up and down those many frigin' stairs going back and forth to work on the metro." I know better -- I've got sagging arms to prove it; but the exercise fairy has not touched with me her magic wand. I'm such a bad girl! Whip me!
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